What exactly are we implying when we say The Future is Female?
It’s a powerful statement that makes you want to rally. I’m as much of a feminist as the next girl, but I really want to know what we’re expecting out of this. If you take it literally, it sounds like we’re saying that the future is female-dominated. Which seems fair, since our culture has been male-dominated for so long. But… even if it’s fair, is it right?
The Women’s Movement has made a lot of noise in the last couple of years, which I think is great. Issues have risen to the surface that needed to be talked about a long time ago and we’re starting to think critically about the status quo rather than accepting things for how they’ve always been. Change requires revolution, usually.
But I’ve noticed conflict in the face of the average man, who is totally down to support equality and also doesn’t want to be bulldozed. Who would? And to their credit, men have a lot to offer society, too. There’s something borderline savage about suggesting that we eliminate men from the future.
The larger issue is that we’re taking a masculine approach to the issue of gender inequality. The very strengths that we as women possess are being surrendered in the interest of dominating. We don’t need women who act like men to lead in business and politics. We need historically feminine attributes to be valued at the same level as masculine qualities.
What are those traits? Generally speaking, women are connectors, we’re more empathetic and intuitive, and we’re constantly changing. Even if we can agree that the world needs connection and empathy now more than ever, we’re still relying on historically masculine traits to make that change.
The masculine energy is logical, strategic, and aggressive. All good things, too. Truthfully, it’s how they’ve become the dominant gender in business and in politics. It could also possibly be why nations are so quick to resort to war. But if we have to adapt masculine traits to find equality, then we’re surrendering the feminine energy within us that makes us so uniquely talented. Why would we do that when what the world needs is a balance of the two?
I can’t imagine what this ecotopian world looks like, that values feminine energy as much as it values the masculine, because we’ve never done it before. Guys aren’t evil patriarchs, they’re just doing what they’re good at, the way they always have. Now women need to be empowered to do what we’re good at, one of those things being change. Change without that little extra push that the masculine is so good at doesn't come quickly or easily and would require both men and women to take on feminine qualities to get us there, like empathy and understanding. Less force, more acceptance. Less talking, more listening. Less attachment to how things have been and more space for growth.
I don’t think that we need equal representation at the top just because it’s fair and I’m not suggesting that we give women power because we want to feel important, too. I 100% believe that the world has become so unbalanced and out of whack that everyone is finally really feeling it. What we need is a balance of feminine and masculine across the globe and that starts at the very granular level - With one single person. You! (and me).